Mary Scheffler

Mary Scheffler passed away on October 13, 2023 at the age of 87.

She was born on October 9, 1936 and lived a full life up until the last moment.

She died peacefully, in her hometown of St. Louis, MO surrounded by friends and family.

Mary was a proud alumni of Kirkwood High School (Class of 1954), University of Missouri (Class of 1958) and Webster University where she earned a Master’s Degree in teaching.  As a teacher, she touched the lives of many children at a variety of ages.  She especially enjoyed working with students who had special needs. She also worked as a tutor for young students and loved helping them during one on one sessions.  She spent several years as a minister and was dedicated to serving the members of her congregations during that time.

Mary was always up for having fun whether it was a Scrabble game, trivia contest, or a party of any kind.  She leaves behind her children Kim (Alan) McCollum, Jeff (Margo) McIlroy and Kerry (Bill) Buell.  She was also blessed with eight beautiful grandchildren, Anna King, Jacob McCollum, Billy Buell, Jonathan Buell, Ryan Buell, Bethany Firsick, Thomas McIlroy and Tricia McIlroy in addition to nine precious great grandchildren.

The family invites you to join us for A Celebration of Life service that will be held at Mason Pointe on Monday, November 20 at 10:30 am.

The address is: 13190 South Outer Forty Road, Town and Country, MO  63017

In lieu of flowers, please consider making a donation to Mason Pointe, the care facility where Mom lived in recent years.  Memorial donations may be sent to Mason Pointe, 13190 South Outer Forty Road, Town and Country, MO  63017, or online at lssliving.org

7 Comments

  1. Rochelle Davis on October 31, 2023 at 4:03 pm

    Mary was such a warm and beautiful person. She always had a smile on her face and love to read. Our last conversation here at Mason Pointe was about her tutoring. She wanted me to find some children in the area that may need aid in reading.
    Mary will truly be missed. She was a blessing to us all here at Mason Pointe.
    Prayers and Blessings to your beautiful family!!!



  2. Sandra L. Roberts on November 1, 2023 at 8:47 am

    I met Mary over 20 years ago at a International Council of Community Churches Conference in Cleveland , Ohio. At the Conference they have a choir. She came into the room and said “I need a strong alto to sit beside.” I looked at her and said, as I patted the chair next to mine and said “well sit on down.” This was the beginning of our long distance friendship. We would talk during the year and a few more times met Conference. I knew the family by talking with Mary. When she living outside of Austin, I was able to visit her for over a week. I will always treasure our friendship and will miss her dearly. My sincerest condolences to the family. Remember when you miss her the most, think of happy times. Ours was a friendship that started with a song.



  3. Aj Brown on November 1, 2023 at 9:01 am

    Applegram I miss you so much! We shared so many stories, laughs and even tears. You made everyone feel welcomed. Your teacher years were far behind you but every day you taught me how to be thankful and grateful. You’re truly an inspiration. Thank for all the light you shined on us at Mason Pointe. We will forever be grateful to have been in your life and letting you share it with us. Love you always and forever.



  4. Maria Hoover on November 1, 2023 at 9:19 am

    Mary had a heart of gold. She came to our floor with so much love, compassion and concern for the residents around her. The ones that needed more help she would do her best to be their friend and to guide them through the activities. She was their champion and was always taking someone under her wing. She really lit up the whole floor. Her humor and wit were always such an addition to whatever we were doing. There is such a void with her absence. I love her so much and miss her dearly. I loved her sweet hugs and our in-depth conversations. I loved singing songs with her and I was truly blessed to have known her. She is one of those people that really has left an impact in people’s lives. Every time I hear the song “Blessed be the tied that binds” I will always think of her. I know she has gone on to a better place. When she came back to Mason point from the hospital, we embraced and I sobbed with joy to see her. I was hoping we’d have many more times together, but it was so glorious to be able to hold her tight and talk with her and feel her love once more. As I held her hand for a while afterwards, I could feel the spirit of God so strong. I closed my eyes and just basked in the beauty and comfort of His sweet spirit there with us. She was truly a woman of God and I know she is with Him. She will forever be in my heart.



  5. Carolyn Dower on November 2, 2023 at 11:43 am

    I loved Mary! She and I often worked in the Live Oak UU Church library together. We would discuss books, of course, which made our work slow, but so much more interesting! She was always up for our ‘fun & fellowship’ parties; always up for a fun time. I missed her wisdom, stories and positivity when she moved, but was glad she enjoyed living in St. Louis. Rest in Peace, Mary.



  6. Christine Lufkin on November 2, 2023 at 2:00 pm

    I loved Mary. She always had a smile on her face. I met her at Live Oak UU Church many years ago. She will be missed.



  7. Sandy Gilchrist on November 4, 2023 at 10:27 am

    Mary’s last few years at Live Oak UU were my first ones. Being a newbie, i was shy about going in to have coffee after our church service. But Mary would be sitting in there and was always warm and welcoming. i will always remember her for that kindness to me.



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