Pamela Gayle Adams
Pamela Gayle Adams was born on November 25, 1954 and passed away at the age of 59 on May 4, 2014. She was a beloved mother to David, sister to Sharon and Christine, partner to Millard, aunt to Daniel, sister-in-law to Matt and Don, grandmother to Johnny and Matt, and a friend of everyone she ever met. She was preceded in death by her mother, Mary, and her father, Willard “Frank” Francis McCutcheon
A devoted caregiver to all, she took pride in her strong backbone and ability to sustain the happiness of all of her family. She had many pets throughout her life, and found great joy in caring for animals. She is also survived by her pets, Lulu, Curly Joe, Trina Marie, and Franklin.
At her request, no funeral will be held. A memorial get-together may take place in her honor.
I Miss You Like Crazy & It Hurts So Bad But I’m Staying Strong Like A Big Girl Should There’s So Many Places I Have To Go Now Without You & I Don’t Think My Body Wants Too I Hope Your Pain Free & Have All The Dogs Like We Talked About We Are All Gonna Make This Like You Told Us We Had Too But I Will Never Have Anyone Love Me Like You Did You We’re My Idol My Superstar My Life & I Thank You For 47 Amazing Years Of Fun I’m Gonna Miss You But We Will Meet Again & Until Then I Love You More & More Every Minute Love Ya Your Lil’ Edna
Memories are like a puzzle. You complete them and store them away, and sometimes the pieces break off and become lost as you make room for new ones. I would call my mother at 2AM to recollect some pieces I was missing on several occasions. “Mom, do you remember when I was about 7 years old, and we went over to North County to the arcade?” She’d fill in the details–the pieces–I was missing, rattling off where we ate, how beautiful the day was, stores we stopped at along the way… She’d laugh afterwards, saying “I’d forgotten all about that until now.” We completed each other, and made one another happy.
In life, we experience things with individuals and we cherish those times. They are not consequential memories that fill memoirs or even interest others beyond the people who created the memories. It’s up to those two or more individuals to recollect the events and piece the memories back together. Though I will hold onto the pieces that remain with every fiber in my being, I sit here brokenhearted, as the memories I made with my mother will forever remain incomplete.
My precious, precious friend Pam will have a place in my heart forever. I love her more than words can say. There are no words to even begin to describe the impact of the loss of her. My heart is broken for her family. God bless each of you and may you find strength to go on without our precious Pam. I love you all my McCutcheon family.
Good bye Pam .. I already miss your posts……. I cant imagine having as many people love me as you do … God bless your son and your family. I know the dogs are missing you too ..
Pam was a great person with a huge heart, was a mother to many of us.
I will miss her dearly, I hope that she is
now pain free and with her mother Mary,and her dogs. RIP Pam.
Love Brenda
My dearest G-Girl: You were the rock of the group and our leader. We had so many laughs that I can not possibly recall all of them. I will treasure those memories always! I am so glad I got to meet the woman my mother called her dearest friend. You will forever hold a special place in my heart.
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.
And until we meet again,
May God hold you in the palm of His hand.
I will miss you so deeply as many of will say! and mean it! Thank you for being in my life and all others. Heaven has gotten an AMAZING WOMAN!! You deserve this pain freeness now. I will not say Good Bye only see you later.. Your laughter, love, kindness, and memories will always be with me Aunty Pam! I love you! Your Beautiful lil Terra, just like you always told me! I know you were proud of me but, I was more proud to say you were my Aunty!
RIP Miss Pam! Prayers for those left behind, that they may be happy again.
My condolences go out to your amazing family & friends. I never got to meet you really in person but you meant so much to me. I will miss your sense of humor. I will miss your heart when it comes to animals. I will miss your stories about your daily events. I will miss more than anything the pictures of that amazing smile. God got one of the best Angels he could have ever chosen. Everything about you will truly be missed !!!
Dear Pam: Your sister Sharon was my best friend from kindergarten through 5th grade at Grant School. I remember you as little girl full of life and energy. I am so glad we re-connected on Face book after all these years. I so enjoyed your posts and waited every day for your next adventure. David, I never met you but I could tell your mother loved you to the moon and back. Sheri and Christine I am so sorry for your loss. I know what it is like to lose a sister at an early age. Pam please say hi to my sis Janet in heaven.
Love Deb
Words are not enough to describe this wonderful person. Only our hearts know the joy and happiness she brought into our lives. The best things about her was her sense of humor and ability to care for everyone she met. Her love of animals her quick response to wrong doing. Her easiness to become your family and you hers. I love her and will miss her till I see her again….Dee&Ron
We to went grade school together but I really didn’t get to know you until we started to have G~Girls parties and you where the ring leader.. You loved to plan so we would have the best of times and if you had anything to do with it you know we would.. FB was your diary of sorts that’s how a lot people fell in love with you that quick wit and you loved to make everybody laugh.. Oh and the stories where legendary.. Nobody could tell a story like you.. What a gem.. As far as the cooking there was always a feast.. If you walked away hungry then that was your own damn fault.. You have a beautiful soul and was one of the most generous people I every meet.. I could go on and on forever about you, just never thought I would have to.. I miss you so much.. Hope you’re having a fun catching up with all your family and friend you have been missing.. Love You Pam
There are no words to describe Pam. We only have it in our hearts. She is the kindest person I have ever met. She had the ability to make you feel like a family member and her part of your family. She loved animals and people, but was able to respond to injustice and in a unique way at times. There will never be another one like her. We love her and will miss her forever until we see her again. Dee&Ron
My Condolences to your sweet family Pam.. May GOD be with you all ….Pam what a fighter and strong lady… I loved seeing and talking to you on FB I looked forward to seeing all your caring …funny…silly…cooking …outings …family …pets …and all the fun things you would post.. and most of all how you cared so much about your FAMILY ..and them about you… you will truly be missed I still find my self going to your page just to see if your there one more time I will keep you in my heart you sweet Angel ..Give them hell Girlfriend and Again My Deepest Sympathy To ALL your sweet Family and Friends of Many …
I cannot believe what I am reading! Pam has been my facebook friend longer than I can remember. She was a funny and fun-loving lady that seemed to care so deeply for others…and her dogs. I know from all her posts she was a true animal lover. I already miss her posts…all of them. I know she was a very special lady to all that knew her personally because she was to me..someone that never met her face to face. I pray her family and friends will be comforted by her memory and know that she would not want any of you to be sad for her. God bless you all in this time and in the future and remember He always takes the brightest and the best before their time. She will be watching you so don’t let her down. Praying for you. I will never forget this beautiful lady. Rest in God’s arms Pam.
What can I say, Pammie you are greatly missed. Facebook will not be the same without you. I miss reading all the crazy things that have happened to you and y our family. I know you were a very sick girl, but you always took time out of your day to say something to make us all laugh, when you should have been resting! Rest now my friend! we will meet again until then wrap us all in your arms and keep us safe.
I never in my life thought I would say good bye to you so soon. You were so strong for everyone, we may have fought alot thru the years, but u were always there for me when I needed you, your late night chats will be missed greatly and all your post that made me laugh. I watched you love David so much and Crissy and Sheri, they will miss you, we all will miss you, but I know you are no longer in pain. Rest well my cuz and fly high with the angels, I know you will be watching over all of us! Love you Pam…….Tammy
David and Family, Just wanted to say how sorry I am to hear of your mother’s passing. Pam was such a dear and loving person,alway’s brightened up my day, with all her jokes, stories, and the amazing food she cooked and the loves of her life. Her boy, grandkids, PeeWee and her dear animals. She’s looking down with the biggest smile. Thank you Pam your the biggest.sweetest kind hearted person I have ever met.
My condolences to all of your family and hope they find peace in knowing that you are no longer in pain. No words can describe how heartbroken I am. We had so much fun and lots of memories in the last several years and wouldn’t have been if not for your organization of the Grant School reunion and of course, the G-Girls. It is unbelievable that we were able to get together numerous times after 40+ years. I still look at pictures and giggle. Your greatest joy was making others happy and you were definitely one of a kind. I will for always miss you!
As I sit here reading in my kitchen (a true southsider always does her best thinking at her dinner table, kitchen etc.) I am wondering how does a person write a memorial for someone who has died and whom they loved. It has to be perfect because the person I am writing this about had some flaws but in my eyes was as close to perfection as anyone could get, Pam McCutcheon. Her loving heart, her giving ways, her contagious laughter, and wit. I and anyone who came in contact with her knew. After a 40 year s or hiatus I’m thinking how lucky we were to have the chance to be friends again. During the 40 years we had other things to do, we had careers, we got married, we had children, we raised our kids, we got busy with life. We got it done! I believe when I went to the classmate page on the internet it meant that our life hard work was almost done except it was now our time to rekindle a lost friendship. (thank God) We set our course, the first night Pam and I talked on the phone for over 2 1/2 hours. It was wonderful. Before we hung up that first night she said I only one question for you Riki and that is what color is your hair. lol Gray I replied and we laughed and laughed. It is said that a person always goes back to the fold and I for one know that is true. Before we knew it we had so many of our old friends meeting with us, thus the birth of the G-girls. Foe these past few short years we hd a ball. We were young gals again enjoying each others company although in reality we were old women who’s work is winding down but we had fun. It saddens me that we didn’t get enough time together. I guess I am selfish I wanted more time.Pam my dearest friend I will miss you but will always love you and be thankful for the time he did allow us. You are a beacon of light that graced this earth for just a short time, but rest knowing that you were so loved and your beacon will never be extiguished, because you have many left behind that it will still shine for. So in closing I say rest my friend, because the day will come when we are together again and oh what a reunion that will be. Love you!
I won`t really know for sure until my time comes but I hope there is a heaven we get to go it. Pam is up there with her mom, who probably is folding laundry. She gets to be with Honey, world`s greatest dog, and several other pets that would be overjoyed to see her again. I will be forever grateful to Pam and her mom for taking such good care of our daughter, Valerie, who is David`s fiance. We will miss our dinners at Hodak`s. Pam always took us there when we were in St. Louis. We will miss her daily Facebook updates on anything and everything. It will never be the same without her. She was a kind person, a great mother, incredible friend, animal lover and we all will miss her dearly.
Pam, thank you so much for taking in animals who needed someone to love and care for them, you had a huge heart and many many people will miss you a lot.
Pam, you brightened up my day, everyday.I .loved reading your Facebook posts and your sense of humor..I will miss that…may you RIP and be pain free..prayers for your family..fly high sweet friend…
Wow, still hard to believe your gone, Pam. I’m also glad we got to re-connect via FB, and will also miss you terribly. To her family PeeWee, Chrissy, Sharon, David I will be praying for you guys. David, we lived next door to your Mom on Magnolia before you were even born. My oldest daughter reminded me of a memory of hers that Pam is the one that took her & Daniel to Shriner’s Circus years ago when they came to town. She was truly a good, loving, kind-hearted woman and I have to keep telling myself that she is no longer in any pain and she is happy to be re-united with her loved ones in heaven. Let us know if you need anything.
I really don’t know what to say when you lose a Sister like Pam. I don’t think anybody else has except Chrissy. Pam and I was different but that was alright. The biggest kick I got from her was that anytime I would meet a friend of hers she would say “this is my OLDER Sister Sharon” I ask her why she always told people this is my OLDER Sister and she would reply because you are. Pam was one of a kind , they broke the mold when she was born.She was there sor me and everyone else that needed her. She had the biggest heart than anyone I ever knew but it finally gave out. I thought it would last forever , hoping. I will miss you so bad ,I can’t stand it. Thank you for being my”YOUNGER” Sister. I guess I new you longer than anyone now. I’m glad your pain and suffering is gone but Oh I Miss You.We have a lot of stories and memories that we can share. Rest In Peace my Sweet Sister and give all your animals hugs and kisses for me. I know thay knocked you down when you got to Heaven. I will see you when I get there. Sheri
How do I even do this but to first say I am so sorry to David and Pam’s family.I am so heartbroken over the loss of Pam.she was a very special friend to me they dont come any better than her.we would laugh so much alot some of the things she would tell me about Barnes Pewe who I knew since I was 15.id call him asshole she didnt care.I laughed til I was crying.we had so much in common with our dogs our open heart surgery breathing problems and she was always there for me.I miss her post just knowing what was going on in her life.food she posted always looked so good.I wont ever forget my dear friend you was the nicest person I have ever met.you was kind caring worry about someone else before yourself.I know you loved your babies and such a animal lover like me.I believe that when you unboxed me before you died you was telling me goodbye. I never thought it would be sosoon .I know you had been sick for so long and you told me you didnt thinkyou had much longer.you was right but I know you never have to suffer with your poor heart and your poor legs anymore but that that dont stop us from missing you so much.I am happy to say you was friend I never met you but I knew you and I didnt have to meet I knew what a wonderful lady you was.we was kinda alike.say it like it is.well my friend I could go on and on about you but all I know is I will keep you in my heart forever.rip my friend I love you
Dear Pam, I wrote on your wall today not expecting to read what had happened .Daily comments we did share love of animals,n family.Though growing up on Iowa and Pestalozzi in a spookie old house.I am sorry we were not closer friends but enjoyed your posts on Fb.I would have loved being 1 of your G-girls lol,.You are in his hands now.He has his hands full with you.Wild n free soar with the eagles to heavens gates n from there the doves to your Mothers loving arms.Good by,Adios,Farewell till we meet again.
To my dearest Friend Pammie that I have had the pleasure of knowing for 40 years. Wow !!!! What Great Memories !!! I will cherish them close to my heart for the rest of my life. All the nights in our younger days we would get in your car and ride for hours, talking, crying , & laughing till one of us would pee our pants that was some of the best times a friend could ask for. All the Great times we had I will hold them close to my heart forever & ever.
You were loved by so many people. You were warm hearted, very giving, and most of all MY BEST FRIEND.
I am very NUMB knowing I can’t pick up the phone and call you, But I will still talk to you in my prayers. You were such a BEAUTIFUL LADY, & LOVED by MANY !!!!!!!!!!!
I miss you already and until we meet agian just remember Vinnie & I will have you in our Hearts Forever !!!!
OUR DEEPEST CONDOLENCE TO YOUR FAMILY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love you,
Vinnie & Debbie O’Shea
Jake, Molly, Jaidon, Tatem & Gabe
xoxoxo
Hey bestest buddy, I miss ya’! Who would’ve thunked that after a 39 year void, I would find my special people. The ones I grew up with. I wish I could’ve gave you another hug. I promise I’ll keep in touch with Chrissy, and see that she’s okay. And especially JM! He’s gonna need some help, and I’m sure you’ll keep an eye on him too. Kathi misses you an awful lot too! You were such a special friend to us, just like a big sis. I’ll talk to you a lot and be asking for help. God bless David, Chrissy and Don, Peewee, and Sharon. And your babies.I think Trena was finally warming up to me. (don’t tell anyone I actually got the G-girls together) We love you and will forever!!!
didn’t know her personally, but listening to my cousin randy weatherford, i needed to. R.I.P
I know of no one who touched so many lives. Pam lived life on her terms and I admire her for that. I will miss the sick humor we shared. The side splitting laughter that made your cheeks sore. What an utter joy it was to know her.
Our heartfelt sympathy goes out to Sherry and Chrissy and all the family. I know you must be devastated at the loss of your sister! Sending prayers and ((((((((hugs)))))))) your way. God bless all of you
Goodbye my friend. You will be missed, but no more pain or worries as you are with God now. Our prayers go out to your son and all your family and friends. Rest in peace Pam.
Memories. memories, memories. Wow…there are so many and they’re all so wonderful. Like watching Shannon play with David when he was little (and he always brought a little toy or something, too, remember?). He loved David (like you couldn’t or something!). The memories I have of sitting in your car in our alley talking for hours and hours about your Mom, your life, your worries…and I’d offer every piece of advice my own life’s experience could find for you. I wanted to ease your way in this world in any small way I could. And, David…my gosh…you were so proud of him…so proud that he grew up to be such a fine man. And I’m proud, too…FOR you…he IS a fine young man. Now, rest your head on God’s shoulder…he’ll take care of you now. I will love you and David forever, don’t you worry. I’ll see you when it’s my turn to go and you can show me the way.
David and family – David we never really met, but I know you from working with Valerie. We have worked together for eleven years as of June. She is totally invested in all of your lives. I am so sorry for your heartbreak. I don’t think we lose someone. She will always be in all of your hearts and mind. Yes it is hard – but none of you will ever forget. God Bless
Even though I only met Pam a few times, they may have been some of the most fun and crazy times. When my cousin Stephanie invited me to happy hour with her mom’s friends, I thought wow, I’ll be home early. No way! Those G-Girls were the funniest, friendliest, and cool people, and Pam especially acted like I was a part of their circle when I had just met them. Pam was hilarious, generous, kind, and had an awesome zest for life. I also enjoyed her stories on FB-she was always entertaining. Chris, Riki, all the g-girls and Pam’s family, so sorry for this great loss. Heaven sure has itself a force to be reckoned with! Thanks for the good times!
Pam you touched so many peoples lives and kept everyone so well entertained. I will miss your Facebook posts and the occasional poke you would send me way. Rest in Peace and all my prayers to your family and friends that are waiting to be reunited with you one day.
Been staring at this page for days unable to find the words to express how much I miss you & love you. I know in my heart we will meet again, until then run n play with the babies, go fishin with your dad, try not to out fish him. Today is better than yesterday, I have hope for a better tomorrow. Rest in Peace momma were all going to ok.
In the beginning I only knew you through my brothers Ralph and Bob. I remember one time when someone picking on me and they were bigger than me, you came along and took up for me. I never forgot that but that was the way you were and always would be. We all grew up found each other 40 years later and became the G-Girls and the best of friends. Had some really good times will miss that, will miss you more save a place for the G-Girls?
I only met Pam once at my cousin’s home, but talked to her many times via E-mail and I feel as if I had known her a very long time. Pam has never met a strainger and I am glad to have known her. She will be missed by all who have known her, I am sorry that we only met once but I will remember her, good bye Pam.
Dear Pam: I have spent the past week trying to make sense of our world without you in it. I have come to realize that I do not need to do this, since you still are and always will be with us. How else to explain we have talked of little else but you these past seven days, and I have thought of little else but you. By the life you lived and how you related to each of use in a special way, you have gone and made yourself immortal. You will remain with all of us who knew and loved you for the rest of our lives. As long as we remember you, you will be here. So rest in peace, dear Pam, safe in the knowledge that you are and ever will be loved. (And have a smoke with my dad, and please give that beautiful Irish Setter a kiss for me.)
It has taken me awhile to do this, I just don’t know what to say. My heart is broken. You were my protector when we were in grade school, you never let anyone bully me. Years later when you contacted me I couldn’t believe that I was going to get to see you again. That first time we met for dinner I couldn’t seem to hug you enough! It was like the years that had passed never existed. Then when you got all of us girls together it was amazing to be with such good friends. Pam, I love you and you made such an impact on my life when we were young and since we have reconnected. You were such an amazing person, you took care of everyone. You were suppose to be here forever! I know there is a special place for you in heaven and that I am sure you are watching over all of us. You will be in our hearts forever my dear, dear friend. My prayers are with your family, Chrissy, Sharon, Peewee, especially for your son and grandchildren. I miss you and love you so much my beautiful angel.
missin you pam prayers to family met pam thur fb she was a great funny crazy loving friend R I P Pam