Stephen Pillow

It is with heavy hearts that we announce the passing of Stephen Pillow, a beloved and cherished trumpet and bass player known for his quick wit and ability to bring smiles to the faces of those around him. Steve passed away peacefully on April 2, 2024, in his home. Born on August 15, 1947, Steve worked as a dedicated truck driver, driving over three million miles with no accidents.  He brought a story and a laugh wherever he went. Whether on stage performing, driving the open road, or sharing a joke with friends, Steve had a gift for brightening the lives of others.

Steve was a devoted husband for 53 years to Cynthia Pillow (nee Proffer) and a father to his three children: Jason Pillow (Washington, MO), Heather Pillow and Hrvoje Palada (St. Louis, MO), and preceded in death by Mark Pillow (Barnhart, MO). He was a doting grandfather to his six grandchildren: Wyatt and Augustus Pillow (Washington, MO), Yusuf, Omar, Hafsa and Bee Palada (St. Louis, MO). He took immense pride in his family and cherished every moment spent with them. From family gatherings filled with laughter to quiet moments of love and support, Steve was the heart and soul of his family.

He will be remembered not only for his musical legacy but also for his warmth, kindness, and endless sense of humor. His playful spirit and zest for life touched the lives of all who knew him, leaving an indelible mark on the hearts of many.

Though Steve may no longer be with us in person, his memory will live on through the laughter and love he shared with his family and friends. He will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him.

A celebration of Steve’s life will be held at Lafayette Park United Methodist Church on April 13, 2024 at 4pm,  where friends and family will come together to honor and remember a truly remarkable individual whose laughter and love will be cherished forever.  The event will also be streamed live on Facebook.  


  1. Deborah Proffer on April 9, 2024 at 6:20 pm


  2. Cindy Pillow on April 9, 2024 at 7:13 pm

    Cindy Pillow I have loved you forever and I always will. I miss you so much ❤️. How do I live without you. You were the best half of our life together. I need you to make my life complete. Take care of Mark until we meet again. I love you. Pea pace rotto. I can hardly wait to see you. Your loving wife.

  3. Jason on April 9, 2024 at 9:37 pm

    What would you put here?

  4. Sis on April 11, 2024 at 2:08 pm

    He has and had 7 half brothers and sisters. He was clearly loved and cherished by everyone past and present. You’ll be missed by everyone.

  5. Jane Herkstroeter Beauchaine on April 13, 2024 at 5:32 pm

    I am sorry for your loss.

  6. Sarah on April 15, 2024 at 9:29 pm

    It’s interesting that the minute I thought of Steve Pillow….I instantly remembered a time when he confessed just HOW MUCH He loved Cindy! No matter how old she/he got, how big sh might be! He was exuding his 💗! For HER! What a lucky, lucky couple they were. It’s going to be difficult for you, Cindy, but just take ONE MOMENT….then one day….at a time. I know! Because I’ve had to do it too….

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