Alexandria Madison Kostial


Alexandria “Ally” Madison Kostial was born September 11, 1997 in St. Louis, MO. She passed on July 20, 2019 in Oxford, MS. Ally is survived by mom (Cindy), dad (Keith), brother (Andrew), grandfather (Donald Knapp), aunts (Patricia Shoffner and Kathleen Kelley), uncle (Jack Knapp), and cousins (Tim, Matt, and Kristi Kelley).

Ally was entering her senior year at Ole Miss in Oxford, MS with plans to graduate in the spring of 2020. She was a founding member of the Alpha Phi sorority and was the founder and president of the Ole Miss Golf Club. She was a member of the Alpha Kappa Psi business fraternity and taught fitness classes on campus.

Ally was a 2016 graduate of Lindbergh High School in St. Louis where she was active in cheerleading, track and field, Youth in Government, golf team, and the National Honor Society. Her sense of adventure brought her to Peru and Africa as a volunteer to teach English to young children.

Ally radiated love and light to all those around her. She loved animals, was a beloved babysitter, lifeguard, yoga enthusiast, and an accomplished half-marathon runner. Her sweet sparkle lives on through the lives she touched. She forever changed the world for the better.

In honor of Ally, take a moment to appreciate the natural beauty of a sunset or flowers like she did every day.

Services will be held at Concordia Kirkwood Lutheran Church at 505 S. Kirkwood Rd., St. Louis, MO 63122. Visitation Friday July 26th, 2019 from 4-8 pm. Funeral Service will be Saturday July 27th, 2019 at 10 am. Thoughts and prayers can be shared online below.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Ally’s Angels C/O Bank Star, 9717 Landmark Parkway, Suite #214, St. Louis, MO 63127


  1. Stephanie Renee Ford on July 25, 2019 at 8:37 am

    Continued prayers for the family.

  2. Judy Norman on July 25, 2019 at 8:55 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. May God grant you peace. Love and prayers to your family.

  3. Queen on July 25, 2019 at 9:15 am

    My prayers are with the family. I didn’t know her but my heart aches because of this tragedy. Such a young life taken too soon!

  4. Pamela Brooks on July 25, 2019 at 9:16 am

    Words cannot express my sadness for your family. My heart is broken for you all. My prayers are for peace and grace from God to be with you during this awful ordeal. I pray for justice for Ally and you all. God Bless you all.

  5. Renee Zibilich on July 25, 2019 at 9:21 am

    To the Kostial family, my deepest condolences. I did not know Ally when she was in our chapter, but as the current House Director, I can tell you that our girls thought so highly of Ally. They are devastated by this tragedy. We will pray for God’s comfort in the days that come. Ally’s bright light will live on at Ole Miss and and in the hearts of our chapter.

  6. Susie Godshall on July 25, 2019 at 9:27 am

    Sending heartfelt condolences from Atlanta, GA. Praying God will grant you peace and be with all family and friends during this terrible tragedy. ????

  7. Marybeth Lowrey on July 25, 2019 at 9:32 am

    Prayers from Oxford, MS
    and a fellow BBA Ole Miss

  8. Carol Barnes on July 25, 2019 at 9:35 am

    My thoughts and prayers are with the entire family of Ally. I’m an Ole Miss graduate and it breaks my heart to hear of your loss!! Please know that I’m praying that God will wrap His arms around you and give you comfort and peace during this very difficult time!!

    Carol Barnes

  9. Maureen Flannigan on July 25, 2019 at 9:38 am

    To Ally’s family: I am so sorry for your loss. I live in Rochester, NY and read about Ally. She was such a beautiful girl inside and outside. I have a niece who resembles her and is away at college. You never stop worrying about them. My heart aches for you, her family. Please know that others from far away places are thinking of you today. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Dance with the angels Ally!

  10. Lexi Yarbrough on July 25, 2019 at 9:42 am

    Although we were introduced at a young age, I had the pleasure of getting to know Ally better her freshman year at Ole Miss. We bonded about being from the same high school and traveling south for college. I loved her energy and how she would like up every room. This breaks my heart. I am sending so many prayers. I won’t be able to make the trip to St. Louis, but I am hoping and awaiting a service for her at the university. From your Lindbergh and Ole Miss family, fly high beautiful girl.

  11. Stephanie McCollum on July 25, 2019 at 9:55 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying that you feel the support of your community and can find some comfort in your memories of your precious daughter. I have children that attend Ole Miss so I have a small connection to that community. Please know that the community grieves with you and we are lifting you up at this time.

  12. Eric Hilf on July 25, 2019 at 10:08 am

    An incomprehensible act; a very sad story — my father was born in St Louis and we visited often when I was young — sincere condolences to her family and friends.

  13. Mary Shannon on July 25, 2019 at 11:16 am

    Sending prayers for family, friends, and Ole MS families, may all find peace, & justice! My heart breaks

  14. James T Cox on July 25, 2019 at 11:35 am

    My deepest sympathy is extended to the Kostial Family. The entire Ole Miss Family shares your loss.

  15. Barry Steger on July 25, 2019 at 11:39 am

    I am so sorry for your loss, I have prayed for your family from the moment I heard. I graduated from Ole Miss in 1975, breaks my heart that this occurred. Please know of my, and my family continued prayers. Sending as much love, care and prayers your way. No words can really help right now, but know there are so many that are praying for you.

  16. Mark Paxton on July 25, 2019 at 11:49 am

    Sorry for your loss. From an Ole Miss dad from Missouri.

  17. Alma Higgins Dixon on July 25, 2019 at 12:10 pm

    My heart is saddened over this senseless loss. My prayers are with the family and friends. May God give you the strength, courage and endurance to make it through. Be encouraged. God will never leave you. ????

  18. Ashley Stanley-Copeland on July 25, 2019 at 12:13 pm

    Many prayers for y’all! May God wrap His arms around you!

  19. Shamberi on July 25, 2019 at 12:14 pm

    May the Lord give you all strength during this time. ??

  20. Paul Reeves on July 25, 2019 at 12:15 pm

    My name is Paul Reeves , my condolences to you and your family.

  21. Gwen Herring on July 25, 2019 at 12:17 pm

    God bless your family! I didn’t know Ally but I have been heart broken for y’all!! So so sad and needless!! No matter what, this should have never happened! I can not imagine your pain ! ??

  22. Susan on July 25, 2019 at 12:31 pm

    To the Kostial Family,
    My deepest condolences. The depth of your sadness can not be imagined but I pray you find peace in all the beautiful memories of Ally and the many lives she touched on her short stay on this earth.
    Thoughts and Prayers

  23. Ladarius on July 25, 2019 at 12:35 pm

    I am sorry for your loss. Im from Mississippi and i heard about it on the news and I will keep yall in prayer .

  24. Susan Lightsey on July 25, 2019 at 12:39 pm

    I can only identify with you as a parent. As a parent, my heart truly breaks for your family. I do pray that somehow you are able to find comfort that can only come from above.

  25. Kathy Norris on July 25, 2019 at 12:42 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my son and understand your hurting heart. It’s just not the right order of things and the only way you can get through is with Gods help and prayer. You never get over it but after years you put in all gods hands. Your family will be in my prayers continuously. God bless you.

  26. Lewis Hills on July 25, 2019 at 12:49 pm

    Sending my deepest sympathy to the family , praying that god will see the family through this.

  27. Leanne Purnell on July 25, 2019 at 12:58 pm

    My deepest condolences to the family and friends…also the Ole Miss students and faculty. On behalf of a citizen of the state of MS. I send prayers to you all. May Gid continue to bless you with understanding and strength.

  28. Ariel Williams on July 25, 2019 at 1:23 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss.

  29. Joan and Neil Rhodes on July 25, 2019 at 1:25 pm

    Prayers for your family at this very difficult time.????????????

  30. Susan Pugh on July 25, 2019 at 1:35 pm

    Prayers are with the family

  31. Susan Pugh on July 25, 2019 at 1:36 pm

    Prayers for the family

  32. Nancy Hostmeyer on July 25, 2019 at 1:53 pm

    To the Kostial family:
    Heartfelt condolences from here in St. Louis, MO. What a tragic loss, a beautiful person inside and out. She was loved by many and her light will live on in hearts and memories. I wish you peace an comfort.

  33. Anita Davis on July 25, 2019 at 1:56 pm

    Praying for your family. This is an unthinkable loss for you all. I pray God gives your family the peace you need to get through this and I am sincerely sorry that you all have to go through this. God bless!!!!!

  34. Clyde K. Wright on July 25, 2019 at 1:56 pm

    Our Deepest Condolences To Keith and The Kostial Family for the Loss Of Your Beautiful Daughter Alexandria. Please know that Our Thoughts and Prayers are with You All During this time of Sorrow!!!

    Clyde K. Wright and The Wright Family

  35. Phil Cooper on July 25, 2019 at 2:33 pm

    Our hearts are broken here in Oxford. May God Bless the family and friends and comfort them during these very difficult times. She will never be forgotten.

  36. Cindy In Arizona on July 25, 2019 at 2:34 pm

    I am from St. Louis, and went to Horton Watkins. I live in Phoenix, but i can’t even imagine what this family is going through….unbelievable……and right before her birthday, no less????? Rest In Peace beautiful……Rest In Peace

  37. Judy McDaniel on July 25, 2019 at 2:38 pm

    So very sorry! Prayers for comfort and strength during this very difficult time. ?????????

  38. Amy Powell on July 25, 2019 at 2:42 pm

    I remember Ally from her Truman Elementary days. My boys rode the bus with Ally and her brother. I remember her as sweet girl with a gentle soul. My sincere condolences to the Kostial family.

  39. Wendy Woods on July 25, 2019 at 2:51 pm

    So sorry for your loss ????. May God guide and comfort you during this difficult time.

  40. Margaret Reddoch on July 25, 2019 at 2:52 pm

    So sorry for your loss. From seeing her photos, she was a beautiful young lady. May the Lord ease your aching heart. Thoughts and prayers for family and friends. God Bless you.

  41. Stacy T. Mitchell on July 25, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    My sincere prayers & condolences are with Ally’s Family, Friends, & the Ole Miss Community!

  42. Kathy Jones on July 25, 2019 at 3:09 pm

    Praying up for your family ???? ?? from Flint Michigan.

  43. Mary Burke on July 25, 2019 at 3:10 pm

    So sorry to hear what happened to Ally. Her mom and I worked at the same school five years ago. I’m sure Ally was a sweetheart, like her mom. Keeping Ally’s beloved friends and family in my prayers

  44. Jill Beam on July 25, 2019 at 3:13 pm

    Prayers from Southaven, Ms. I am so sorry for your loss. May God wrap his arms around all of you and give you the strength and peace to get through today, tomorrow and the days to come during this difficult time.

  45. Geneva Thomas on July 25, 2019 at 3:14 pm

    My condolences to you and family.. My prayer is God give you strength as the healing process begin ??

  46. Charla Duggins on July 25, 2019 at 3:23 pm

    My heart just hurts on the loss of Ally. Just know you all are in my thoughts and prayers.

  47. Carver & Karen Phillips on July 25, 2019 at 3:47 pm

    With our deepest sympathy, losing a love one is hard, but losing a young love one that was beautiful flower is heartbreaking!! Our family is so sorry for your loss, continuing prayers for you all!! God Bless!! ????

  48. Lisa Johnson on July 25, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    My deepest sympathy to the family and friends of this beautiful young lady from the parent of an Ole Miss Alumni. Our hearts are broken.

  49. Jimmy Ruble on July 25, 2019 at 3:50 pm

    So sorry for your loss, may Gods comfort and peace be with you during this difficult time

  50. Candy Darling on July 25, 2019 at 3:50 pm

    Words do not truly convey my heartfelt sympathy for Ally’s family and friends. May you find peace and comfort in all the beautiful memories that will be locked in your heart forever. God bless all of you. ????????????

  51. Tom sichra on July 25, 2019 at 3:56 pm

    So sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for your family and justice for Ally.

  52. Evangelist Cathy Nolen on July 25, 2019 at 3:58 pm

    I am so sorry to hear of your sweet daughters death. The bible states that to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord, so just know that she is now resting in the bosom of an Almighty Savior who loves her. when I read the news, I thought about I may have been one of her uber drivers on campus during football season. Know that you and your family are in our prayers.

  53. Vickie Rowland on July 25, 2019 at 4:05 pm

    From an Ole Miss BBA alum…My heart breaks for your family. ??

  54. Thinking of you in Florida on July 25, 2019 at 4:09 pm

    Sending prayers, love, and hopes for peace to your family. The nation is behind you, hoping for justice for Ally! She deserved her continued joyous life and will not be forgotten.

  55. Kim Edwards on July 25, 2019 at 4:42 pm

    So sorry for your loss??????. Praying for the family in the days, weeks, and months to come????

  56. The Ricky leigh family on July 25, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    My family, we are so so sad for the family and friends of Ally Kostial. Our hearts are broken and we just wanted your family to know our thoughts and prayers are with your family in Missouri. God will be there for you. He will lift you up and help you make it. We lost our daughter Wendy in January. Folks in Mississippi are all thinking about Ally and your family and friends.

    Most Respectfully, The Ricky Leigh Family, 131West Valley St., Hernando, Mississippi, 38632

  57. Richard Porter on July 25, 2019 at 4:53 pm

    My condolences to her family and friends.

  58. Jerri McDaniel on July 25, 2019 at 4:59 pm

    Although I didn’t know Ally personally, as a 1977 Ole Miss alumna and longtime member of the Oxford-Lafayette County community, her loss deeply disturbs me and saddens me. I can only imagine what it is doing to her family and other loved ones. My deepest sympathies go out to you all.??

  59. look after hair company in crestwood on July 25, 2019 at 5:38 pm

    so grateful to have known Ally and to have had her as a client at our salon for many years! we truly enjoyed seeing her each and every time she came in to get her hair done!She was such a sweet girl and we will never forget her! we are so sorry and will continue to keep her in our thoughts and prayers!

  60. Charles D. Vogler on July 25, 2019 at 5:43 pm

    May our LORD and SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST comfort you now and forever. YOU AND YOU’RE FAMILY ARE IN MY PRAYERS. Originally I am from alabama and did my residency at ST.LOUIS UNIV. HOSPITALS.

  61. Karen Williams on July 25, 2019 at 6:01 pm

    My heart is broken for Ally’s family and friends. As an Ole Miss alum I’m praying for peace, comfort and understanding for all of you during this devastating loss and the days to follow ??????

  62. The Hunters on July 25, 2019 at 6:19 pm

    Kostial family, you are loved and supported by this Mississippi family (Ole Miss Alum) and many, many others.

  63. Jo Ann McBride on July 25, 2019 at 6:50 pm

    Praying for your family during this time. May God give you comfort.????

  64. Stephanie on July 25, 2019 at 7:23 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for confort during this time.

  65. Sara Richter on July 25, 2019 at 7:37 pm

    Precious Ally, filled with light and love! A
    child of God!! Family and friends, we are so sorry for your loss. We are lifting you up in prayer and are grieving along with you. May the Lord hold you close and sustain you as you walk the path ahead. Please remember the Holy Spirit is always with you!!

    In Christ,

    The Richter family

  66. Kay Zink on July 25, 2019 at 7:42 pm

    May God give you strength and comfort until you are all together again in heaven.

  67. jamie on July 25, 2019 at 8:22 pm

    Ally will radiate a warmth among the ones who understand kindness and love. God bless you and your family as she will never be forgotten.

  68. Carol Laster on July 25, 2019 at 8:29 pm

    Dear family members, you all are in my prayers.??????May God comfort you as only he can. Amen

  69. The Johnston Family on July 25, 2019 at 8:33 pm

    As a Mississippian and an Ole Miss Alumni, my heart breaks for your family for what your daughter endured in this, our home. Please know that although many here did not meet her, we will forever remember her. Lifting you all up in prayer daily.

  70. Tracy Weissend on July 25, 2019 at 8:47 pm

    My heart is broke hearing this ,I pray the lord’s strength in days to come.

  71. Shannon Ford on July 25, 2019 at 8:51 pm

    Prayers coming your way from Louisiana..My heart goes out to the family of this young beautiful woman..praying for you all????

  72. Hope Blanton on July 25, 2019 at 8:58 pm

    You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. May God give you peace that passes all understanding.

  73. Vicki Davis on July 25, 2019 at 10:49 pm

    I did not know Ally but was so sorry to hear and read this devastating news. I previously lived in Oxford,Mississippi and became a huge Ole Miss fan. It sounds like Ally contributed so much to the Ole Miss campus and family. She will be truly missed by all who knew her and for those who didn’t. Such a tragedy at a very young age. Ally, you are now an Angel of God and there is no better reward than that baby girl.
    To the Kostial Family and Friends:
    May the Lord Jesus Christ lay his healing hands upon you all for peace and understanding for the evil act by the hands of someone who was evil himself. May the Lord give you all, the peace, comfort and strength to get you through this senseless loss. Praying for you all, from Statesboro, GA. the home of the Georgia Southern University and this Ole Miss fan!!! Amen ????????.
    Fly high Ally, Fly High!!!????

  74. robert mcnutt on July 25, 2019 at 11:31 pm

    My deepest condolences to the Kostial Family on the loss of Ally. Prayers from an Ole Miss Alumni 1973 . Surfside, Fl

  75. Rhonda Dulaney on July 26, 2019 at 1:35 am

    My husband and I are Ole Miss grads snd have been deeply saddened by your unspeakable tragedy. We are praying for God to comfort you and give you peace. She was such a beautiful young lady who was obviously very outstanding. Please take comfort in all the wonderful memories you have. Ole Miss will never forget her.

  76. Lisa on July 26, 2019 at 4:33 am

    I am from Harmontown & our community is reeling with the news that she was found in our rural area! We are devastated & are praying for everyone who knew her & who are feeling the loss!!

  77. Sarah Jane on July 26, 2019 at 8:17 am

    To the entire Kostial family, I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I did not know Ally personally, but she was a beautiful soul. I am an Ole Miss graduate, and this breaks my heart to see and read about. I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. Ally’s legacy will live on – already, her death has touched so many people, just as her life did. My thoughts are with your family. Please know that people everywhere are sending you strength and love.

  78. Vicki Heafner on July 26, 2019 at 8:52 am

    My heart is breaking for your family. I will be praying for all of you.

  79. Kristin Tyler on July 26, 2019 at 10:11 am

    I was so deeply saddened by this tragedy, and cannot even begin to imagine the pain that you alk are experiencing. This hit home so bad as I have a 23 year old son. I see that Ally and I share the same birthday of 09/11. I will be thinking of her on this day and every year forward. May God Bless and protect each and every one of you.

    Warmest Regards,
    Kristy Tyler, Memphis, TN

  80. Betty Ponzer on July 26, 2019 at 11:20 am

    Keith I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

  81. Cherie Burroughs on July 26, 2019 at 12:36 pm

    Keith and Cindy: Please know that our family grieves with you and is praying that you may find strength in the knowledge that Ally’s light lives on in the hearts of all who knew her. She is a beautiful spirit — a reflection of the loving, supportive upbringing you provided. Her legacy of kindness will not be forgotten.

  82. Margaret Carper on July 27, 2019 at 10:47 am

    Dear Mr. and Mrs. Kostial, Andrew and Kostial friends:
    We write to send our heartfelt condolences and prayers to you from our family in Dayton, Ohio, Chicago, Illinois and of course from the University of Mississippi where our son is a rising senior. We understand that words and gestures don’t neutralize the wretched grief, despair and sorrow you’re enduring, but we wanted to try…. We want you to know that we think of you, we pray for you, we weep for you. We want you to know that your Ally lives on in our thoughts, our hearts, our prayers.
    God bless you, and God keep you forever brave and steady as you face the day without your precious daughter, sister, grand-daughter, niece and friend. Very truly yours, Mr. and Mrs. Matt (Maggie) Carper, John and Mike Carper

  83. Merl Washburn on July 27, 2019 at 3:38 pm

    Prayers From Oklahoma.
    Sorry This Young Person Was Shorted of Her Life & Her Goals For Her Future and For Her “Family”. The Sun Will Rose Tomorrow -Scott Kysar

  84. Todd Gaetke on July 27, 2019 at 8:23 pm

    To the Kostial family:
    I did not know Ally personally although she was a part of my fraternal family from afar. As a member of Alpha Kappa Psi at Fort Hays State University in Kansas and knowing the brotherhood that is a part of Ally’s AK Psi family I would like to extend my heartfelt condolences to all of Ally’s friends and family. May the memories that you have of your angel help to lessen the pain and suffering that Ally’s tragic passing has cast upon your family. I am so very sorry for your loss. Peace be with all of you.


  85. Karen Petter on August 2, 2019 at 2:50 am

    To the Kostial family,
    Our family has been thinking of your family during this difficult time. I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words to describe the grief you must be going through. Although we didn’t know her while at Ole Miss it hits close to home as I have 2 daughters. The first just graduated last year and my youngest is headed there in 16 days. I am praying for God to give you peace and comfort in knowing she is with God. One cannot imagine the pain ya’ll are going through. Sending many prayers from Paducah, KY. God wrap your arms around the Kostial family in this difficult time.
    Karen Petter

  86. The Carper family on May 5, 2020 at 9:35 am

    Dear Kostial family and friends: Greetings from Dayton, Ohio and Oxford, Mississippi. We’re writing again with renewed empathy and heartfelt condolences, thinking of you during Ally’s graduation week. May God keep you close and give your hearts peace. God bless you all,
    The Carper family
    (Matt, Maggie, John and Mike)

  87. Beatriz Orozco P on March 5, 2022 at 10:23 pm

    Today I saw the case in tv… I do understand how heartbroken the family of this beautiful and gentle soul of “ally” will be…specially mom; she was a beautiful angel in this world and now she is in heaven. I am sorry and my prayers with the family. ❤️🙏🏻

  88. Dianne Chand on March 9, 2022 at 1:48 pm

    I am sending condolences to your family for the senseless loss of your daughter Ally. I have lived in St. Louis long enough to call it home. Prayers for peace. Ally was so beautiful and I know she is missed.

  89. Carol Lynn on April 7, 2023 at 3:15 am

    I saw the 48 Hours documentary tonight regarding your precious, precious daughter Ally. I have an only daughter just 2 years older, and it wrenches my heart and soul for what you have endured.
    Every picture of Ally portrays such light, eagerness for life, and hopefulness. She is so very lovely. She has the insight and sensitivity to deeply value the beauty of God’s handiwork as He washed His paintbrush across the sky every evening,
    She valued it enough to document it in photos, and bring that beauty and delight to the attention of those who are moving too fast to recognize these simple and profound treasures that He gives.
    I speak of Ally in the present tense, for her body simply fell away from her on that day, but her spirit does live on in heaven with God our Father. You will be reunited with her one day, as all of us who are believers in Christ will be united in heaven for eternity! That is our Great Hope in this world of sorrow.
    It is Easter weekend! As Jesus Christ came, died for our sins, and rose again – conquering death –
    so will all those who believe in Him rise up from death snd unite together again in heaven, where there will be no sorrow! I believe Ally awaits there.
    May I leave you with these words of hope:
    I Corinthians 15:55-58
    55 O death, where is your victory?
    O death, where is your sting?”
    56 For sin is the sting that results in death…
    57 But thank God! He gives us victory over sin and death through our Lord Jesus Christ.
    58 So, my dear brothers and sisters, be strong and immovable.
    May God continue to carry your family in His loving arms until that glorious day when we meet Him, and you all are reunited with Ally once again.

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