Stay, Ramon Carlton

Stay, Ramon Carlton (Doris), 81, of St. Louis, MO, died on September 23, 2022. 

Ramon was born in St. Louis, MO and graduated from Christian Brothers College High School.  Ramon went on to attend Christian Brothers College in Memphis. 

Ramon was married to Doris Stark on February 19th, 1966 and they were married 56 incredible years. 

Ramon was the business owner of Genuine Motor Parts before retiring and working part-time at multiple furniture stores. Ramon was involved in helping others, horseracing, serving at the local food pantry, bowling and his church. Ramon loved attending his daughters’ and grandsons’ sporting events. 

Ramon was a man of faith, a dedicated and loving husband, a wonderful father and a very present and caring grandfather.  Ramon was lovingly referred to as” Good Lookin’ Ray”.

Ramon was survived by his amazing wife,  Doris; his cherished three daughters, Nancy (Mike) Winkeler, Kathy Rymer, Barb (Ted) Gruener; his very special  grandsons, Justin, Michael, Samuel, Marion, Jack, Thomas, William, Markuice; and dear nieces, Lisa Brown, Catherine Leaders and Rose Reilly. 

He is proceeded in death by his parents, Carl and Elizabeth Stay, his sister Charlotte Tochtrop, his uncle Walter Stay, his niece and nephew Tina and Mark Schulte and his best friend and cousin Otis Lee Daniels.

Ramon was best known for his love for Jesus, his commitment to his wife and family, praying for hundreds of people daily, his pursuit to reach heaven and helping others do the same. 

A memorial service will be held on November 19th, 2022 at 3:00pm at the Rock Church, formerly known as Ballwin Baptist Church.  The Rock Church is located at 15101 Manchester Rd., Ballwin, MO 63011.

Ramon donated his body to St. Louis University Center for Anatomical Science and Education.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be given to Barnes Jewish Hospital or to The Knights of Columbus Cardinal Glennon Memorial Hospital for Children. The family of Ramon Stay wish to thank the wonderful nurses and hospice team at Barnes Jewish Hospital in St. Louis, MO. 


  1. Nancy Winkeler on September 29, 2022 at 3:36 pm

    Love you to the moon and back Dad. I will celebrate you everyday.

  2. Heigel Family on September 30, 2022 at 10:58 am

    What a wonderful and generous man….heaven has gained a beautiful soul. Bless all of his family during this difficult time♥️

  3. Kathy Stay on September 30, 2022 at 11:01 am

    My sweet, sweet dad! You will forever be cherish and loved!! See you again in Heaven!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  4. Doris Stay on September 30, 2022 at 12:31 pm

    He had the greatest gift life can give – much love. Heaven bound.

  5. Lisa Brown on September 30, 2022 at 4:26 pm

    My Uncle Ray was one of the sweetest people I have ever known. I loved calling him and listening to his many stories. I have no doubt he will be watching over us all. Love you, and will see you again in heaven 💕

  6. Catherine Leaders on October 1, 2022 at 8:59 am

    Anyone that ever met Uncle Ray (Good Lookin’ Ray) knew one thing…. He had a heart of gold. He adored his entire family. He always had a smile and a kind word for everyone he met. He never hesitated to give his loving advice and encouragement and did whatever he could to help others. I know the gates of heaven were opened wide for him.

    My Mom (Charlotte) loved him so much and could not have asked for a more loving brother. I know they are both in heaven with Nonnie and Grandpa at peace and watching over all of us.

    I know we will all reunite one day in heaven. God loves you, Uncle Ray, and so do we.

  7. Christine Fechter Zerjav on October 1, 2022 at 11:30 am

    Ray’s cup for life and love was “ runneth” over for sure ! How wonderful he was able to enjoy life with his beautiful and committed wife Doris , to have had 3 daughters and then be cherished by so many grandsons . The pictures and the stories Kathy shares with me about her father surely display a life well lived and loved by all ! Ray’s love will continue on with his beautiful donation to help others in need on earth and I know he will continue to guide his loved ones from heaven above.

  8. Rose Reilly on October 1, 2022 at 12:03 pm

    Uncle Ray was extremely kind to everyone he met. It amazed me whenever he came in contact with a complete stranger, he would just start talking to them like they were old friends. I loved hearing about how his family would drive around the city at Christmas time and give strangers money for the holidays. Or helped feed people at the shelters. This world needs more people like him and his family. Thank you Ray for instilling in me, the need to help others. Until the day comes that we’ll all be together again, I know you’ll be watching over all of us.

  9. Jordy on October 2, 2022 at 2:26 pm

    What an honor it has been to have known good-lookin Ray. The love and interest he invested into his family shone so bright, it’s remarkable. I’ve been so moved by Ray’s motive to help and love others. I hope your resting well, Ray. Keep an eye on us!

  10. Justin Rymer on October 2, 2022 at 3:38 pm

    Good lookin ray tough us how to care for others and to look out for the family. We love you ray!

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