Thomas “Tom” Lodes

Thomas “Tom” L. Lodes, 64, of St. Louis, Missouri was called home on October 28th, 2018.

Preceded in death by his father Richard and loving brothers Richard and John Lodes. Dear son of Betty Schmidt; beloved husband of Anita (Vitale); loving father of Jessica (Jason), Kathryn & Sam; loving Papa of Emma and Olivia; dear brother to Jim (Judy), uncle, cousin, and friend to many.

Services will take place at Queen of All Saints in Oakville Missouri on Friday November 9th, visitation will be held from 9-11am followed by a funeral mass at 11am.

Tom will always be remembered as a hardworking, humorous and sensitive man. Family and friends were always the top priority in his life and everyone knew how they were loved by him. He would not want us to be sad but remember all the joy he brought to our lives.

Memorial contributions can be made to Evelyn’s Hospice House 1000 N Mason Rd, Creve Coeur, MO 63141 or St. Louis Children’s Hospital 1001 Highlands Plaza Drive West, Suite 10, St. Louis, MO 63110.

18 Comments

  1. Mary Jane Barth on October 30, 2018 at 3:12 pm

    Thoughts, and prayers for you, Anita, and your dear ones. Tom was one special person. Kenny, Dave, and I, had many fun times with Tom. In fact, too many to count! He was a dear friend, and part of our family. God bless all!
    Jane



  2. Linda Moretti on October 30, 2018 at 7:59 pm

    He was a great guy fun to work with. So sorry for your loss



  3. Sal D'Ippolito on October 30, 2018 at 8:49 pm

    My deepest sympathy, for Tommy’s family.
    Although it’s been years since I’ve seen him…
    the memories of our times spent together have always remained in my heart. I still talk about the “guy weekend” trips, and can laugh all over again, at some of Tommy’s crazy antics! He was a best friend to all that hung with him, especially if you lead him to believe that he was a great fisherman. Oh boy, if the walls of the “Bonnie Hilton” could Talk! Never a moment spent with Tommy…that he didn’t have you laughing, cooking or at least dancing. He sure was a one of a kind…Wonderful friend.
    Rest in Peace, my dear friend,
    Sal



  4. Gary m Rosenbaum on October 31, 2018 at 11:51 am

    Tom was a great guy whom I had many great laughs with.

    My condolences toi his family.



  5. Rene Feder on October 31, 2018 at 12:41 pm

    With his co workers spread all over the country, we only got to see each other once every few months at most- but his presence was known to all as being so caring and genuine, a great sense of humor and someone who was a lot of fun to give a hard time to as he could dish it right back.

    His fighting spirit and calm yet upbeat demeanor was admirable and he will be greatly missed by his Phillips Edison family.

    Prayers to his family. He spoke so highly of you all and when doing so would light up. May the joy and memories he shared with you all carry you through this difficult time.



  6. Rich Zagorski on October 31, 2018 at 1:36 pm

    My condolences to the family and friends. Tom was a great guy and a mentor for me. Tom would always keep you smiling. I think of him often. My prayers and thoughts are with you all. I’m sure if you asked Tom how long it would take to get to heaven he would tell you “bout a 6 pack”



  7. Cindy Craig on November 1, 2018 at 8:19 am

    Sorry so for your loss. I worked with Tom for several years, he was great guy and will be missed by the many who knew him.



  8. Stephan Demarais on November 1, 2018 at 10:24 am

    I know words cannot express the sorrow your family is going through right now. I have worked with Tom for the better part of two years, and enjoyed his expertise, friendship and his dry sense of humor. My favorite memory was when his visited my home and we just sat outside having a few Coors Lights just laughing for hours. I will miss him dearly. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and all of your family.



  9. Scott Duvall on November 1, 2018 at 2:02 pm

    Thoughts and prayers for Tom and his Family. Tom was a great man I had the pleasure working with Tom In Bloomington, IL at one of his properties for many year. We will miss you Tom. Love Mclean County Asphalt family.



  10. Harry Pettit on November 2, 2018 at 8:27 am

    My condolences and prayers to his family and friends.
    Tom and I worked with each other (customer /vendor) for about 5 years. His sarcastic humor always made my day.
    I will truly miss him.



  11. Karen Cline on November 4, 2018 at 5:21 am

    My thoughts and prayers are with the family.



  12. John & Barb Gallagher on November 4, 2018 at 12:49 pm

    Our deepest sympathy to Anita and the family. Tom was a great guy whose sense of humor endeared him to everyone. He will be missed.



  13. Cindy Seibel on November 5, 2018 at 5:03 pm

    The sadness in my heart is overwhelming. Tom was not only one of my best friends but he was also a brother to me. We had so many fun times together. I first met Tom when I was about 12. He used to sneak beers up to my room for me, when my brothers would have parties. When I was older I moved in with Tom and my brother Mike at the “Bonnie Hilton”. We soon became our own little family. We even had a family picture taken. Then it seemed our family became bigger and bigger. Soon those we called friends,became our family also. All those Sunday’s eating, drinking and dancing made for some fantastic memories, that i will cherish and hold close to my heart forever. This isn’t good bye,it’s until we meet again. I LOVE YOU, Cindy



  14. Cindy Seibel on November 5, 2018 at 5:25 pm

    The sadness I feel is overwhelming. Tom was not only one of my best friends, but he soon became a brother to me. I first met Tom when I was about 12. When my brothers would have parties, he would sneak beers up to me. When I got older, I moved in with Tom and my brother Mike at the ” Bonnie Hilton”. We soon became our own little family. We even had a family picture taken. Our little family grew bigger and bigger. The people we called our friends were now our family also. The wonderful memories we made are something I will hold close to my heart forever. I’ll never forget the closeness we shared. This is not good bye, but until we meet again. I LOVE YOU NOW AND FOREVER. CINDY



  15. Cindy Seibel on November 5, 2018 at 6:11 pm

    The sadness I feel is overwhelming. Tom was not only one of my best friends, but he was also my brother. Tom and I met when I was about 12 years old. He used to sneak me up beers when my brothers were having parties. When I was older I moved in with Tom and my brother Mike at the “Bonnie Hilton”. We had our own little family. We even get a family portrait taken together. Then our family kept getting bigger and bigger. The people that were once our friends soon became our family as well. Tom never knew an enemy, he always met you with open arms. He made me cry and he made me laugh a lot. The memories we made will forever be in my heart. This is not goodbye, it’s until we meet again. You’re a wonderful man and you’re loved by many. I’ll never forget you, you’ll be in my heart forever. I love you Tom always and forever. Cindy



  16. Joan Giudicy Winheim on November 6, 2018 at 2:56 pm

    Anita, keeping you and your family in my prayers. I grew up just a couple of doors from Tom he was always such a crack up, and a really sweet guy. I extend condolences from my son Joel who is a friend of your son Sam. May wonderful memories of Tom bring you peace.



  17. Juli (Giudicy) Sellars on November 7, 2018 at 1:41 pm

    We were all saddened to hear of the loss of your dear sweet Tom. We were old neighbors and childhood friends. Tom was always a funny sweet guy. May your love and memories of Tom give you strength during this sad time for all. Healing thoughts of peace and comfort are sent your way. Sincerely, The Giudicy Family



  18. Robert and sally backer on November 9, 2018 at 6:04 am

    We are praying for you and your family. While we didn’t see Tom often we always enjoyed his company. We apologize for not being able to make it to his memorial service. Robert and Sally



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